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Is “Happy Valentine’s Day” a Risky Text?
How to navigate Valentine’s Day in a new relationship, or situationship. Valentine’s Day, the holiday that’s either a romantic fairy tale or a commercialized nightmare, depending on your relationship status. But what if you find yourself in the murky waters of a new relationship, or worse yet, a situationship? It doesn’t have to be a […]
How to navigate Valentine’s Day in a new relationship, or situationship.
Valentine’s Day, the holiday that’s either a romantic fairy tale or a commercialized nightmare, depending on your relationship status. But what if you find yourself in the murky waters of a new relationship, or worse yet, a situationship? It doesn’t have to be a big deal, so long as you don’t make it one. Take a deep breath, and buckle up, for FFWD’s guide on how to navigate Valentine’s Day with someone you just started seeing, or someone you’re not seeing that seriously.
First things first, let’s address the elephant in the room: expectations. In a new relationship or situationship, the pressure to make Valentine’s Day memorable can feel like a ton of bricks crashing down on your fragile romance. But guess what? It doesn’t have to be that way. Throw those Hallmark-inspired expectations out the window and embrace the chaos.
Now, onto the logistics. Gift-giving can be a minefield in a new relationship, or in a relationship where you’re not sure where you stand. You don’t want to come on too strong with a grand romantic gesture, but you also don’t want to underwhelm with a last-minute drugstore card. So, what’s the solution? Keep it light, keep it fun, and for the love of all things holy, avoid heart-shaped anything. Opt for something quirky or personal that shows you’ve been paying attention without overdoing it. Bonus points if it’s something you can enjoy together, like tickets to a weird local event or a DIY craft kit.
Next up, the contentious date night. Whether you’re going out or staying in, if you’re seeing your boo, the key is to keep it low-key and low-pressure. Skip the fancy prix fixe dinner and opt for something more casual and spontaneous. Maybe it’s a picnic in the park (weather permitting) or a Netflix binge with all the snacks your hearts desire. The goal here is to have fun and enjoy each other’s company without the stress of meeting unrealistic romantic expectations.
But what if you’re not quite sure where you stand in your new relationship? Ah yes, the infamous situationship. In this case, communication is key. Have an honest conversation about your expectations for Valentine’s Day. Are you both on the same page about keeping it casual? Great, then enjoy a carefree day of whatever floats your collective boats. Are you hoping for something a bit more romantic? Express that too, but be prepared for whatever response comes your way. Remember, a situationship is all about navigating the gray areas, so embrace the uncertainty and go with the flow.
Lastly, let’s talk about the big picture. Valentine’s Day is just one day out of the year, and it’s important not to get too caught up in the hype. Instead of focusing on grand gestures or Instagram-worthy moments, focus on building a solid foundation for your relationship. While it’s more romantic, it is still another date. Whether it’s been two weeks or two months, take the time to really get to know each other and enjoy the journey.
So there you have it, my irreverent guide to navigating Valentine’s Day in a new relationship or situationship. Remember, it’s all about keeping it light, keeping it fun, and above all, keeping it real. Now go forth and celebrate in whatever way brings you joy, whether it’s with heart-shaped chocolates or a marathon gaming session. After all, love (and situationships) are what you make of them.
And if all else fails, there’s always February 15th candy sales to look forward to!
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Lights, Camera, New Video Profile: 6 Tips for Crafting a Standout FFWD Scene
Creating a dating profile, especially a video profile, can be overwhelming — especially if you’ve never done it before. Here are our tips. Welcome, FFWD community! Whether you’re a seasoned member of platform or a newcomer exploring the vast world of FFWD, it’s time to take your Scene to the next level. In a sea […]
Creating a dating profile, especially a video profile, can be overwhelming — especially if you’ve never done it before. Here are our tips.
Welcome, FFWD community! Whether you’re a seasoned member of platform or a newcomer exploring the vast world of FFWD, it’s time to take your Scene to the next level. In a sea of dating apps and dating profiles, making yours stand out is the key to sparking connections. FFWD does some of the work for you in a scene, but here are some tips to help you go the extra mile. Discover how to make your FFWD Scene pop with these top tips for creating a standout video profile.
Before You Record:
Dress to Impress: Before hitting that record button, take a moment to ensure you’re date-ready for your Scene. A nice shirt, a genuine smile, and a positive attitude can go a long way in charming potential matches. Remember, first impressions matter, even in the world of online dating.
Location, Location: Choose your recording location wisely. Whether it’s a cozy corner at home or your favorite outdoor spot, make sure the lighting is good, and there’s minimal background noise. A clutter-free and visually appealing background will enhance the overall quality of your video profile and make you the focal point.
Angles Matter: Avoid unflattering angles and skewed perspectives by positioning your phone at eye level or slightly above. Recording with your phone in your lap may not give the best impression. Think of it as a virtual date across a table – a more natural and appealing view is sure to capture the attention of your potential matches.
While Recording:
Let Yourself Shine: Make your FFWD Scene truly yours by answering questions that resonate with you the most. With a plethora of prompts to choose from, select the ones that allow your personality to shine. Authenticity is key, so be yourself and let your unique qualities stand out.
Depth Over Brevity: When answering prompts, go for depth over brevity. Providing thoughtful and thorough responses, rather than short one-word answers, gives potential matches more insight into the real you. Share anecdotes, express your passions, and let your personality shine through the screen.
Press Stop When Finished Recording: Once you’ve shared your thoughts and insights, remember to hit ‘stop recording’ to avoid those awkward end moments. A clean and polished finish adds a professional touch to your video profile, showcasing your attention to detail.
Remember:
As you embark on the journey of perfecting your FFWD Scene, remember that the goal is not just to capture attention but to foster genuine connections. The nuances of your personality, the warmth of your smile, and the authenticity in your responses all contribute to a more profound and meaningful impression.
Creating a standout video profile is an ongoing process. Embrace the opportunity to record and re-record, allowing your FFWD Scene to evolve alongside you. Let inspiration strike, and don’t shy away from updating your answers to reflect where you’re at!
As FFWD introduces new questions, consider them as invitations to showcase different facets of your personality. Stay curious, be open to exploration, and use these prompts as a canvas to paint a richer picture of who you are. Your video profile is a dynamic representation of your genuine self, and by keeping it fresh, you invite potential matches to join you on the exciting adventure of getting to know each other.
In a world where first impressions are often digital, your FFWD Scene becomes a virtual doorway to your world. So, take a moment to revel in the creativity, authenticity, and effort you’ve invested in crafting a profile that stands out. Sleigh your FFWD Scene with confidence, let your personality radiate, and may your profiles continue to sparkle with the promise of meaningful connections in every swipe. Here’s to a dating journey filled with authenticity, excitement, and the joy of discovering and being discovered.
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Revamp Your Love Life: Dating Resolutions for a Fulfilling 2024
Dating Resolutions may be cliché, but these tokens of advice from dating experts are helpful in changing up your dating game any time. As we bid farewell to the old and embrace the new, it’s the perfect moment to set some dating resolutions that will transform your love life in 2024. Whether you’re single and […]
Dating Resolutions may be cliché, but these tokens of advice from dating experts are helpful in changing up your dating game any time.
As we bid farewell to the old and embrace the new, it’s the perfect moment to set some dating resolutions that will transform your love life in 2024. Whether you’re single and ready to mingle or in a committed relationship looking to add some spark, these resolutions are designed to bring positive changes. Join us on a journey of self-discovery, meaningful connections, and a renewed approach to dating.
Body:
- Step Out of Your Comfort Zone: In the realm of dating, familiarity can breed stagnation. Break free from routine and try new activities or explore different dating platforms. Whether it’s attending social events, joining clubs, or testing out fresh dating apps, embracing the unknown can lead to unexpected connections and exciting adventures.
- Prioritize Self-Love: A crucial resolution is to prioritize self-love. When you value and care for yourself, you radiate confidence and become a magnet for positive and healthy relationships. Take time for self-care rituals, focus on personal growth, and surround yourself with positivity. A strong foundation of self-love sets the stage for fulfilling connections with others.
- Communication is Key: Effective communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Resolve to express your feelings openly and listen actively to your date. Honest and transparent communication builds trust and understanding, fostering a deeper connection with your potential partner.
- Quality Over Quantity: Instead of pursuing an endless stream of dates, shift your focus to quality connections. Invest time in getting to know someone on a deeper level before deciding if they’re the right match for you. Meaningful relationships thrive on genuine connections, so aim for depth rather than quantity.
- Learn from Past Experiences: Reflect on past relationships to gain valuable insights. Identify patterns, recognize what worked, and understand what didn’t. Use these lessons as stepping stones for personal growth, making more informed choices in your romantic endeavors.
Tips to Keep Your Resolutions:
- Set Realistic Goals: Crafting resolutions that align with your values and are achievable will keep you on track throughout the year. Realistic goals are more likely to be maintained, leading to sustainable changes in your dating life.
- Create a Support System: Share your dating resolutions with friends or family who can offer encouragement and keep you accountable. Having a support system adds a layer of motivation and makes the journey more enjoyable.
- Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge and celebrate small victories along the way. Whether it’s a successful date or a personal breakthrough, recognizing progress boosts motivation and reinforces positive habits.
- Stay Positive: Approach dating with a positive mindset. Even in challenging situations, focus on the lessons learned and the potential for growth. Positivity attracts positive energy, creating a conducive environment for meaningful connections.
- Be Patient: Finding the right person takes time. Be patient with yourself and the process. Enjoy the journey and the opportunities it brings to learn more about yourself and others.
Embarking on a journey of dating resolutions is an exciting way to usher in the new year. Whether you’re seeking a new flame or nurturing an existing one, these resolutions and tips will pave the way for a fulfilling and love-filled 2024. Embrace change, celebrate progress, and get ready for a year of transformative connections. Pro Tip: You can find it all on FFWD. Download, and refer a friend for good karma. Cheers to the adventure that lies ahead!
Understanding Ghosting: The Ultimate Guide to Navigating the Silent Exit in Modern Dating
When It’s Okay, Why It Happens, and Coping Strategies
Imagine this: you’re all geared up for what looks like a promising connection. You’ve been messaging someone who sparked your interest, fantasizing about cozy coffee dates and leisurely strolls in the park. But then, as if by some cruel magic trick, they disappear. Welcome to the perplexing world of ghosting in modern dating – a phenomenon more confounding than a Houdini act, minus the applause.
In today’s digital dating realm, a staggering 80% of online daters have felt the chill of being ghosted. It’s become almost a rite of passage: 70% get ghosted before even meeting face-to-face, 25% after a few casual meet-ups, and 10% after a couple of months into what seemed like a promising relationship.
But what’s really behind this vanishing act? Is it ever justifiable? Understanding the dynamics behind ghosting could be the antidote to coping with its sting.
When Ghosting Isn’t the Worst Idea Ever
Ghosting, while usually a big no-no, sometimes tiptoes into a murky zone where it’s somewhat understandable:
- Safety First: Trust your gut. If you feel threatened or unsafe, ghosting transforms from a social faux pas into a necessary act of self-preservation. In such scenarios, being ‘Casper the Safety-First Ghost’ is not just acceptable, but advisable.
- Early Game Ghosting: During the initial chit-chat phase online, if the spark just isn’t there, ghosting becomes an unspoken yet mutual exit strategy. Think of it as the digital equivalent of politely excusing yourself from a lukewarm conversation without the awkwardness of a formal goodbye.
- Mutual Meh: Sometimes, after a first meet-up, both parties share a tacit understanding that the chemistry just isn’t there. This mutual disinterest often leads to a ghosting that feels more like a silent nod of agreement to move on, each with a quiet wish of good luck to the other.
Inexcusable Ghosting: Peeling Back the Layers
Beyond the more normalized ghosting circumstances, the reasons behind ghosting are multifaceted and often complex:
- Confrontation, No Thanks: Let’s face it – some people are just terrible at confrontations. The mere thought brings a wave of anxiety, making ghosting seem like a less daunting path.
- Digital Distance: The virtual barrier of online dating can sometimes reduce the perceived emotional stakes, making it easier to ghost someone you’ve only interacted with through a screen. A richer, more authentic connection method (ahem, video profiles), can foster deeper emotional connections, potentially reducing the likelihood of ghosting
- Choice Overload: With an overwhelming array of options in the online dating world, ghosting can inadvertently become a method for managing too many proverbial balls in the air.
- Covert Narcissism. This one’s particularly troubling, often emerging in deeper relationship stages. Beware of the narcissist’s playbook: they’re often the ones who lovebomb (shower with affection at the outset) and then ghost, using this tactic to maintain control and incite a chase – a glaring red flag of emotional manipulation.
Coping with Ghosting: Strategies for Moving Forward:
The impact of ghosting goes deep, often leading to self-doubt and emotional turmoil. Understanding the reasons and having strategies can help mitigate the damage:
- It’s Not You, It’s Them: Remember, ghosting is more about the ghoster’s hang-ups than your worth or deficiences. Think back to the various ghoster archetypes – the confrontation-shy, the decision-paralyzed, and the emotional manipulators.
- Self-Care Squad: The cumulative effect of even casual ghosting can wear you down, so prioritizing your emotional health is key. Never underestimate the power of leaning on friends, indulging in self-care, or seeking professional support. Healing begins with acknowledging your feelings and taking steps to care for your emotional wellbeing.
- Advocate for Honesty: Fostering a culture of genuine, open communication in the digital dating sphere can play a pivotal role in reducing ghosting. Embracing vulnerability and honesty from the get-go can cultivate deeper, more sincere connections and diminish the ghosting phenomenon.
In the ghastly world of ghosting, understanding the why and how can equip us to handle these sudden disappearances with resilience and less self-reproach. Championing a culture of honesty and forthright communication, even in a digital age, can potentially transform ghosting into the dating misstep it should be. At FFWD, that’s our guiding light, and we invite you to join us in turning this vision into reality.
The Bird Test: TikTok’s Viral Relationship Compatibility Test and Why It’s the Ultimate First Date Tool
Ah, TikTok, the app that has introduced us to viral dating trends beyond dance challenges. Forget about the ‘Renegade’ and ‘Savage Love’ for a moment; the platform is also a treasure trove for first date advice. Enter the ‘Bird Test,’ a delightful yet insightful trend for evaluating relationship compatibility that has both the internet talking […]
Ah, TikTok, the app that has introduced us to viral dating trends beyond dance challenges. Forget about the ‘Renegade’ and ‘Savage Love’ for a moment; the platform is also a treasure trove for first date advice. Enter the ‘Bird Test,’ a delightful yet insightful trend for evaluating relationship compatibility that has both the internet talking and experts nodding their approval.
What is the Bird Test, Anyway?
The “Bird Test” gained traction after a TikToker Lyss Lyss shared a video that has now been viewed over 287K times. The premise is simple: If you point out something as seemingly mundane as a bird in a tree and your friend or partner shows genuine interest, it’s a good indicator that your relationship has the potential to last.
Lyss Lyss used a real-life example, recalling how she and a friend spent 10 minutes watching a woodpecker and Googling facts about it. It was a trivial moment, yet one that signified the strength and attentiveness in their relationship.
Is the Bird Test just another passing dating trend, or is it solid first date advice? The question was so burning that we had to consult the experts at the Gottman Institute and the results are fascinating.
Expert Opinion: Why the Bird Test is Not Just a Fad
While the “Bird Test” is creating quite a buzz, the concept behind it isn’t new. It resonates with the Gottman Institute’s theory of “bids for connection.” These bids can be verbal or non-verbal, significant or trivial, but they are essentially attempts to connect with someone else. According to relationship experts at the institute, how we respond to these bids can predict the health of a relationship.
In a study that followed couples for six years, the Gottman Institute found that the “masters” of relationships (couples who are together and still happily) turned towards each other’s bids 86% of the time. On the other hand, the “disasters” (couples who aren’t together or are unhappy) did so only 33% of the time. The point? Paying attention to the small things isn’t small at all—it forms the very foundation of a strong relationship.
The Bird Test Really Works: Real People, Real Stories
The reaction online has been overwhelmingly positive, with users sharing their own “Bird Test” experiences that span decades. “30 years ago my girl pointed out a raven. We watched her for half an hour and were absorbed with each other,” commented one TikTok user. Others shared that even after 20 years of marriage, these seemingly trivial moments keep their relationships strong.
But it isn’t always so rosy. Some users admitted their partners or family members didn’t pass the test, leading them to question the future of those relationships. After all, consistent neglect of these bids for connection can create a rift over time.
Why the Bird Test is the Ultimate First Date Tool
The genius of the Bird Test lies in its applicability to crucial first dates, serving as a unique tool for relationship compatibility. In a setting where both parties are often anxious yet keen to connect, the Bird Test offers a unique lens through which to gauge compatibility and mutual interest.
Not only does your date’s reaction serve as a natural gauge for compatibility—showing if they value your thoughts and observations—but it also serves as a real-time ‘litmus test’ for active listening and mutual interest. This is crucial for forming meaningful connections. By drawing your date into a spontaneous moment, you’re not just engaging in small talk; you’re fostering a shared sense of discovery and interest.
How it Works
- Observe and Share: Spot a bird or something else worth commenting on and share it with your date.
- Assess the Response: Pay attention to how your date reacts. Do they seem interested? Do they ask a follow-up question or contribute a related story?
- Engage: If the response is positive, use it as a springboard for more meaningful conversations and deeper connection.
The Versatility of the Bird Test
The beauty of the Bird Test is its incredible versatility. You can deploy it anytime, anywhere:
- During a lull in the conversation
- While sharing a meal or a drink
- During a shared activity or outing
This adaptability means that you can use it as an icebreaker or as a way to reinvigorate a date that may be losing steam.
In a dating world that often prioritizes superficial swipes and snap judgments, the Bird Test offers a refreshing, authentic way to evaluate potential partners. So, the next time you’re on a first date and a bird happens to fly by, seize the opportunity. Not only could it make for an interesting conversation, but it might also offer a small but telling window into your romantic future.
P.S. You can try it with a cutie you found on FFWD <3
Beyond the Blaze: 5 Essential Self Care Tips for When the World Feels Like a Dumpster Fire
Navigate the chaos of today’s world with our top self care strategies.
Self care is key to mental health and wellness, especially in a chaotic world
Remember when “dumpster fire” was a term reserved for that burnt pizza slice left in the oven too long? Maybe even your best friend’s questionable fashion choice for the club? Ah, memories of a simpler time. Now, the global situation seems to have taken that phrase quite literally.
But let’s be honest: flipping through the channels or aimlessly scrolling through social media feels a lot like being stuck in a never-ending dramatic movie trailer. Each headline feels heavier than the last. And just like a real dumpster fire, the more attention and oxygen we give it, the bigger it seems to get.
So, what’s a modern-day global citizen to do? Should we adopt the posture of the ‘This is Fine’ dog meme, sipping coffee amidst the flames? Maybe. But more than that, it’s high time to focus on some quality self-care. Because let’s face it, your mental health deserves some TLC.
Let’s break down some self-care tips to help you find solace during those times when the world feels overwhelming.
1. Log Off and Unplug
Before you panic, no, we’re not saying you need to delete all your dating app matches (although, you might want to reconsider the one who thinks the earth is flat). We’re suggesting a brief respite from the endless waves of news and social media notifications. Set specific times for updates. Maybe even indulge in a digital detox weekend. Your brain will thank you for those periods of peace. Think of it as giving your mind a spa day.
2. Get Moving, but Make It Fun
So, global chaos is not the ideal backdrop for your fitness journey. We get it. But did you know that shaking your booty has the power of a small therapeutic bomb? Get creative. Dance in your PJs, walk backward in the park (safely), or challenge your neighbor to a socially distant hula hoop contest. Endorphins are waiting to be your best friend, and they’re more loyal than any golden retriever.
3. Art it Out
Now, this isn’t about creating a masterpiece worthy of a museum showcase. (Although, if you do, props to you!) It’s about catharsis. Scribble your frustrations, paint blobs, or compose a song with made-up words. Your emotional well-being doesn’t necessarily understand the language of art, but it sure feels its impact. Your soul doesn’t care if your painted tree looks more like a flamboyant broccoli; it cherishes the freedom of expression.
4. Connect in Real Life (IRL):
Sounds contradictory from a digital dating platform, right? But trust us on this. Humans are wired for connection. Texting is great, but hearing a friend’s laughter or seeing your grandma’s smile on a video call? That’s golden. Old-fashioned letters have a charm, too. Scribble some words, doodle on the margins, and send it off. It’s an analog hug in a digital world.
5. Treat Your Mind Like Your BFF:
Imagine your mind is that one friend who always brings snacks and listens to your rants. Now, treat it accordingly. Meditation, deep breathing exercises, or even counseling are like those long, heartfelt conversations over hot chocolate. They soothe, reset, and rejuvenate. Prioritizing mental health isn’t a fad; it’s self-respect.
So here are some final words of wisdom. In these trying times, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. But, remember, even amidst the grand dumpster fire, there are pockets of cool, calm oasis — wherein you can retreat and heal your mental health with self care. You just need to know where to look—and sometimes that’s within yourself.
Stay safe, stay sane, and remember to breathe amidst the embers.
If you or someone you know is struggling with thoughts of suicide or in crisis, help is available.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (US): 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)
Remember, reaching out for support is a sign of strength. You are not alone, and help is just a phone call away. dial 988.
Do Pickup Lines Work? A Comprehensive Look at the Art of the Icebreaker
When it comes to the world of dating and romance, pickup lines have been both celebrated and vilified. Here’s our take.
Some swear by their charm, while others dismiss them as cheesy and ineffective. So, do pickup lines really work? The answer is a bit more nuanced than a simple yes or no. On dating apps, they can be a great way to get a conversation off the ground and spark meaningful connection, but only when they land well. This week, our team did a deep dive into the art of pickup lines, exploring what makes them effective, when to use them, and rounding up some of our recent favorites. Here’s what we think:
If you’re gonna use a pickup line, it has to be good.
Yes, pickup lines can work, but they have to be good. A well-crafted pickup line can grab someone’s attention and initiate a conversation. The key is to choose lines that are clever, humorous, or intriguing. Avoid overused, clichéd lines that are likely to elicit eye rolls rather than smiles and giggles.
A Transition to Meaningful Conversation is required:
While pickup lines can pique interest, they should ideally serve as a conversation starter. After delivering your witty line, don’t forget to follow it up with a more conversational question or comment. This transition from a playful line to a genuine conversation is where the real connection can be established.
Originality is Key:
Women, in particular, are often on the receiving end of pickup lines, and they’ve heard it all. To stand out, your pickup lines should be both pithy and unique, and tailored to your audience. Avoid recycling tired old phrases and instead aim for something fresh and unexpected, but not in a bad way.
Embrace the Ridiculous:
While originality is crucial, don’t be afraid to inject a bit of humor and absurdity into your intros. A well-timed, light-hearted line can be endearing and show that you don’t take yourself too seriously. Just be sure that your humor is playful rather than offensive.
Now that we’ve covered the fundamentals of pickup lines, let’s get creative with some examples you can (but probably shouldn’t) borrow for your next encounter:
1. “Are you a magician? Every time I look at your scene, everyone else disappears.”
2. “Do you have a Band-Aid? Because I just scraped my knee falling for your smile.”
3. “Is your name Google? Because you have everything I’ve been searching for.”
If you’re looking for more bad examples here’s a comprehensive list.
In our opinion, the effectiveness of pickup lines depends on various factors, including their quality, context, and delivery. Remember to be original, transition smoothly into a conversation, and, most importantly, be respectful of the other person’s response. With the right approach and a touch of creativity, pickup lines can be a fun and charming way to break the ice and potentially spark a meaningful connection. So go ahead, try out some of these lines, and see where the conversation takes you. If you’re looking for someone to try them on, download FFWD. We’re all about bad lines, as long as they lead to great connections. Happy dating!
8 Great First Date Ideas for NYC Fall
Coming up with great first date ideas in NYC can be tough, especially if you’re trying to avoid “getting drinks” for the 100th time. We’ve got you covered.
With an abundance of choices, but also a need to impress, it can be hard to choose a great first date spot — especially sight unseen. In this blog post, we’ll cover ten first date ideas in NYC that cater to diverse tastes and personalities, helping you make a great impression while keeping things fresh and exciting. Whether you’re into outdoor adventures or cozy indoor experiences, we’ve got you covered.
Low-Key First Date Ideas
Coffee or Tea Tasting
Coffee or tea tasting can be a fantastic first date idea, especially if you both enjoy a warm beverage. Pick a cozy cafe that offers a variety of coffee or tea options. This setting provides a relaxed atmosphere conducive to conversation and allows you to explore your taste preferences together. Whether you’re sipping on lattes or sampling exotic teas, it’s a low-pressure way to get to know each other while indulging in delightful flavors.
Art Gallery Stroll
For art enthusiasts or those seeking a touch of culture, an art gallery stroll can be an excellent choice. Many cities have galleries that feature both local and international artists, making it an opportunity to appreciate creativity and spark meaningful conversations. As you admire paintings and sculptures, you can discuss your interpretations and opinions, fostering a deeper connection.
Activity-Based First Date Ideas
Nature Walk or Hike
If you both share an appreciation for the great outdoors, consider embarking on a nature walk or hike. Choose a scenic trail or park where you can explore together while enjoying fresh air and beautiful surroundings. Being in nature often reduces stress and promotes relaxation, creating an ideal environment for meaningful conversation and getting to know each other better. If getting out of the city overwhelms you, try a long walk around Central Park, Prospect Park, or Riverside Park.
Cooking Class:
A cooking class offers a hands-on and interactive experience that’s perfect for a first date. Select a class that focuses on a cuisine you both love or are curious about. Learning to prepare a meal together not only strengthens your bond but also provides plenty of opportunities for laughter and teamwork. Plus, you’ll get to enjoy a delicious meal you’ve made together.
Board Game Night:
For a more casual and playful first date, consider having a board game night. Find a local board game cafe or bring your favorite board games to a park or a cozy corner in a cafe. Board games encourage friendly competition and can reveal a lot about each other’s personalities and problem-solving skills. It’s a great way to bond and have a blast.
Farmers’ Market Adventure:
Exploring a farmers’ market together can be a unique and enjoyable first date idea. Wander through the stalls, sample local foods, and discover handmade crafts. This environment provides a relaxed atmosphere where you can chat freely while connecting over shared interests in food and community. If you’re not passionate about food, try a flea market. Here’s a roundup of farmers and flea markets (because no, Union Square is not the only good one).
Mini Golf:
Mini golf is a lighthearted and fun activity that allows you to be competitive while keeping things relaxed. Whether you’re a pro or a beginner, it’s an excellent opportunity for laughter and playful banter. Mini golf courses are often designed with quirky themes, adding an extra element of enjoyment to your date. You can go inhere
Explore a Bookstore:
For book lovers, a trip to a bookstore can be a charming first date. Roam the aisles, recommend favorite books, and exchange literary insights. Bookstores often have cozy reading nooks or cafes, making it easy to spend hours chatting and getting to know each other while surrounded by the world of literature.
At FFWD, we’re on a mission to eliminate bad first dates. Selecting the right first date activity and spot can set the tone for a successful connection. We suggest you pick a first date that considers your shared interests — but above all else that leaves room for good conversation, laughs, and meaningful connection. Whether you opt for a cozy coffee date, an outdoor adventure, or a cultural outing, the key is to create an environment where you can relax, enjoy each other’s company, and have meaningful conversations. For more first date ideas, join our mailing list. And you can download FFWD of you’re still looking for that special someone to go on a date with :).
How to Spot and Tackle a Selfish Lover
Unlock the secrets of spotting and dealing with selfish lovers.
In our previous post, we dived into the undeniable truth: a selfish lover isn’t just a bedroom buzzkill; they’re a colossal crimson flag that can send shockwaves through your entire relationship. That is, their selfishness during sex can translate into a lack of consideration and care in other areas of the relationship. This is where the ripple effect of their selfishness comes into play – their actions in the bedroom can provide critical insights into their consideration and care (or lack thereof) in other aspects of your partnership.
Spotting a Selfish Lover
But in a world full of complicated relationships, spotting a selfish lover can feel like finding a needle in a haystack. But, luckily, we’re here to help you in your quest for enlightenment to help you identify this behavior early on. That is, it is handy to know whether their actions require a few tweaks and may not be a cause for real concern or is a pattern that is squarely within the crimson zone.
Lack of Communication
A selfish lover often fails to communicate their desires, preferences, and boundaries. They may not ask for your input or make any effort to understand what brings you pleasure. This lack of communication can lead to misaligned expectations and a one-sided sexual experience.
Inattentiveness
Another sign of a selfish lover is their inattentiveness to your needs and desires. They may not pay attention to your cues or show any interest in satisfying you. Their spotlight shines solely on their own pleasure, leaving you feeling like a forgotten extra in your own love story.
Refusal to Reciprocate
A selfish lover is often unwilling to reciprocate the same level of attention and effort that you put into satisfying them. They may not be interested in exploring your desires or making an effort to ensure your pleasure. This one-sidedness can create a sense of imbalance and dissatisfaction in the relationship.
Disregard for Boundaries
A selfish lover may disregard your boundaries and push for their own desires without considering your comfort or consent. They may make you feel pressured or uncomfortable, prioritizing their own needs over your boundaries and well-being.
Lack of Emotional Connection
In addition to the physical aspect, a healthy sexual relationship also involves emotional connection and intimacy. A selfish lover may lack the emotional depth and connection required for a fulfilling and satisfying sexual experience. We’re not saying that a good mindless romp-session isn’t good or healthy from time to time, but if that is their only mode, it may be an indicator that they are merely focused on their own pleasure than on building a strong emotional bond with you.
Dealing with a Selfish Lover
If you find yourself in a relationship with a selfish lover, it’s important to address the issue and communicate your needs and expectations. It is at this point that you can determine whether their behavior is merely an oversight versus a sign of a truly emotionally unavailable person.
Open and Honest Communication
Start by having an open and honest conversation with your partner about how their selfish behavior is affecting you. Be assertive, but also approach the conversation with empathy and understanding. After all, we’re all human, and sometimes we make mistakes
Establish Boundaries
Establish clear boundaries and make sure your partner understands them. Let them know what you’re comfortable with and what crosses the line. Boundaries are not meant to restrict, but rather to create a safe and enjoyable space for both of you.
Consider Your Long-Term Compatibility
Ultimately, it’s important to evaluate whether the relationship is meeting your needs and whether your partner is willing to make the necessary changes. A selfish lover may not be compatible with your desire for a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It’s essential to prioritize your own happiness and well-being.
Seek Professional Help
If the issue persists and yet you see hope and potential in your relationship, it might be worth considering couples therapy or seeking professional guidance. A trained therapist can help you navigate the complexities of your relationship and provide valuable insights and strategies for improvement.
Being with a selfish lover can be frustrating and disheartening, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the road. By addressing the issue head-on, setting boundaries, and fostering open communication, you can work towards cultivating a fulfilling and satisfying relationship. Remember, love should be a two-way street, where both partners prioritize each other’s needs and pleasure. So, go forth, communicate, and create the love life you deserve!
7 Pro Tips for Crafting an Irresistible Opening Message on a Dating App
Follow these rules to craft an irresistible intro to guarantee a response.
Opening lines on dating apps are the modern-day equivalent of the age-old “meet-cute” – they can make or break your chances of a great digital first impression. Let’s be real: It’s a cutthroat arena out there, flooded with unoriginal pickup lines, grammar disasters, and AI-crafted messages that lack the charm of human imperfection.
So, what’s a love-seeker to do? Before you hand over your romantic destiny to an algorithm, hold up! We’ve spoken to love gurus, language experts, and yes, even some mom-friends for time-tested advice. Below are seven foolproof tips to help you up your messaging game and make a killer first impression with an irresistible opening message.
1. Personalize Your Way Into Their Heart
The cardinal sin of online dating is sending those clichéd, generic openers like “Hey” or “What’s up?” It looks like a mass message and shows lack of effort, which is much less likely to get a response. Instead, show your interest by personalizing your message. Start with referring them by their name. Science shows that people love hearing their name. But beyond that, use the insights from video profile to tailor your message. A fleeting look, an impromptu laugh, a shared love for artisanal coffee – these are the details that make for a powerful conversation starter. “I noticed you’re into hiking, ever tried [local trail]? It’s a killer workout and a killer view!”. Want more proof that personalization is key? Opening lines that reflect that you’ve invested time in getting to know them as an individual get 80% more responses!
2. Engage & Intrigue But Keep It Brief
Here’s the art part: You want to be engaging but not overbearing. See if they mentioned an interest and ask them a fun question about it. For instance, if they mention that they’re into cooking, don’t just ask about their favorite recipe—challenge them a bit! “What’s your signature dish? And can it beat my unbeatable spaghetti bolognese?” This opens up the conversation for playful banter and a deeper connection.
3. Compliments Go a Long Way But Keep it Classy
Everyone loves a compliment, and it never hurts to know that someone thinks you’re lovely. Just keep it classy. Compliments are like social bubbly—they should be effervescent and just enough to make them feel giddy. Stick to safe zones: smiles, style, and swag.
4. Show ‘Em the Real You, Quirks and All
Authenticity isn’t just a buzzword; it’s the bread and butter of real connections. So feel free to use your quirky language and original style. Bonus points if you can find a way to let your individuality shine through. So if you have a habit of making puns, throw in a cheeky one. “If you were a vegetable, you’d be a cute-cumber. Too much? Maybe. But I’m just here trying to make the ‘beet’ drop.”
5. Opt for Vulnerability rather than AI
Some think if you can’t find something appropriate, to outsource it to AI. Listen, we’re not living in a Black Mirror episode. AI might run our phones, but it shouldn’t run our love lives. Statistics affirm it—83% of people can smell an AI-crafted message a mile away, and they’re not here for it. So if there is nothing particular that jumps out lead with a vulnerability rather than reaching for AI. Something like “I never know what to write on dating apps but you seem awesome and I would really like to get to know you.”
6. Spellcheck is Sexy, Trust
Typos are the bad breath of texting. A quick proofread says “I’m the real deal, and I care enough to hit backspace a couple of times.”
7. Don’t take things too personally
Not getting a response to an opening line can feel like a punch in the gut. But there are a million possible reasons that person didn’t write back, and 99.9% of the time, that has nothing to do with your attractiveness and value as a person.
Online dating is more than the endgame; it’s about the journey, the experiences, and the stories waiting to be told. So gear up, embrace the ride, and get ready to type out messages that will make your matches feel they’ve just found the protagonist in their love story.